Addressing wedding invitations can often be the most daunting part of the invitation process. How do I refer to Uncle Charlie? Should I send one to my 12 year old cousin? What about Aunt Sue and her partner?
Many different situations will come up when you start with your wedding invitation addressing.
Make sure (and double sure) to check the address and
You don't want to have one of your beautiful invitations returned for an incorrect address with post office stamps all over it.
Many couples are choosing to forgo 2 envelopes. If you choose to only use 1, address with the outer envelope suggestions. It's still recommended to use 2 for a formal wedding. If you are doing a casual Hawaii wedding, 1 should be fine. The protocol for addressing wedding invitations will not change based on a formal or informal wedding.
How to Address Wedding Invitations
Wife kept maiden name. Outer: Mr. Jack Jones and Mrs. Mary Smith Inner: Mr. Jones and Mrs. Smith
Married couple with wife assuming husband's name. Outer: Mr. and Mrs. Jack Jones Inner: Mr. and Mrs. Jones
Married couple with children invited. Outer: Mr. and Mrs. Jack Jones and family (or may leave off family) Inner: Mr. and Mrs. Jones and children's first names, oldest first
Married couple without children invited. Outer: Mr. and Mrs. Jack Jones Inner: Mr. and Mrs. Jones
Live together. (alphabetically by last name) Outer: Mr. Jack Jones and Miss (or Ms.) Mary Smith Inner: Mr. Jones and Miss (or Ms.) Smith
Do not live together. Outer: Mr. Jack Jones (send to closest friend of couple) Inner: Mr. Jones and Miss (or Ms.) Smith
Unmarried female. Outer: Miss (or Ms.) Mary Smith Inner: Miss (or Ms.) Smith (and guest)
Unmarried male. Outer: Mr. Jack Jones Inner: Mr. Jones (and guest)
Same Sex Couples
Outer: Mr. Jack Jones and Mr. Jason Smith Inner: Mr. Jones and Mr. Smith
If under age 18, only list names on inner envelope.
Over 18 Send own invitation, and address as single guest.
This should cover most of your guests on your invitation guest list. If another comes up, use common sense and proper
addressing wedding invitation etiquette
and you should be fine. After you are done addressing the wedding invitations, be sure to use some nice wedding stamps for the outer envelopes.